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5 ways to motivate your child to get out of bed on time Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

Getting out of bed in the morning is a struggle for many people, particularly children or teenagers. Teenagers have their body clocks working against them. During the teen years the natural habit is to stay up later and sleep later into the morning. Unfortunately, many high schools start very early in the morning which works against the natural rhythms of the teenager’s body clock. Because of this, it often takes some doing to motivate your child or teenager to get out of bed on time on a school morning.

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If your child or teenager is having trouble getting out of bed in the morning, try to offer a tangible incentive to being up and out of bed on time. This could be a chance for you and your child to sit down together for a few minutes at the beginning of the day. It could even be having time for a hot breakfast in the morning instead of having to eat cold cereal on the way out the door. These sorts of natural benefits to being up on time will help motivate your child to change his or her morning habits.

With many children or teenagers the logical approach can help them to understand why it is important to be up and out of bed on time. Explain that when they sleep in or hit the snooze button it adds to the morning stress for them and for everyone else in the house. On the other hand, when they are up on time there is more time in the morning for breakfast, checking homework, and other things without having to rush out the door at the last minute. Helping your child to understand how his actions in the morning affect the rest of the family can help him to change his ways.

For many children, the thought of getting up and going to school is simply not enough motivation to get out of bed. Instead, try waking your child up with something special. It could be a good morning kiss or song that you sing to them every morning. It could be sending a sibling into their room with a special treat. Whatever it is, waking your child up with something special is likely to help her to wake up in a more pleasant mood in the morning.

If your child doesn’t go for the sweet and special approach, try doing something funny to wake your child up in the morning. Send the dog in to lick her face. Have the cat walk on the bed and meow in his face. Have a younger sibling come into the room and sing a funny song. Whatever you do, make sure it is more fun to get up in the morning than it is to stay in bed.

If all else fails, try sending your child to bed earlier. Some children have trouble waking up in the morning because they are not getting enough sleep at night. If this is the case, then it is time to lay down the law and change your child’s bedtime habits. If your child complains that she is not tired at bedtime then tell her she can read or listen to music quietly but that she must be in bed. Getting more sleep at night may make it easier for your child to get out of bed on time in the morning.

5 Things to Say to your Daughter the Night before her Wedding Monday, February 14th, 2011

For a father, watching his daughter get married is a bittersweet moment. While you are so proud she has grown up into a beautiful woman and found a man who truly loves her, it is hard to let go of your little girl. She is a woman now and maybe someday soon be raising children of her own. Even though your baby girl is uniting with another man, your role in her life is not forgotten. She will always come to you in times of trouble and image 40 5 Things to Say to your Daughter the Night before her Weddingshare with you her happiest moments. On the day before her wedding, share with her just how very special she is.

Tell your daughter how happy you were the day she was born, how her entering the world changed your life forever. Express your love for her mother and how you hope her marriage brings her as much joy. Explain what it felt like the first time you held her in your arms, the first time you helped her patch up a scraped knee, or the first time you watched her heart get broken. Tell her what a beautiful woman she has become.

There have likely been many moments in your daughter’s life that have made you proud to be her father. Share those stories with her. Relive her high school and college graduations; tell her the joy and fear you experienced watching her fall in love for the first time. Tell her how much you cherished every moment you spent together.

Pass on advice about marriage and relationships. Stress to her the importance of communication and mutual respect in a marriage. Tell her to always stay in touch with her family and to remember how important it is to laugh and smile every day. Make sure she understands that her happiness is your number one priority and what you expect out of her future husband.

Your daughter may have children someday, and maybe soon. Teach her how to love her children. Tell her the best way to love her children is to always openly express love for their father. Provide a safe and comfortable environment for the children so they always know they can be themselves. Always be there to listen and to love. Hug them every day. Tell them you love them every night, no matter what.

The most important message to impart of your little girl as she takes the big step in to marriage is that you are still her dad and she is still your little girl. Tell her you love her, are so proud, and will always be there for her, for any reason. Make sure she knows how much her family loves her and will miss her, but how impressed they are with who she has become.

Watching your daughter get married will be one of the happiest days of your life. After all, don’t we all wish nothing but happiness for our children in their lives? While it may seem that you are taking a backseat on her wedding day, you will never take a backseat in her heart.

5 ways to show your teen that you love them Friday, December 31st, 2010

As your children age and become teenagers, they become less interested in their parents and more interested in their friends. As they start to venture out on their own more, there will be less quality time to spend with them. Despite the fact that your children would rather be hanging out with their friends, instead of eating dinner with their family, it is still very important for the children to know that they are loved and appreciated by their parents.

Continue to show affection to your child whenever you can. Even though days may be very busy, there is always time for a hug or a quick ‘how are you’? Say good morning to your child every single day. If there is time, sit down and have breakfast or a cup of juice with them. Tell them good night every single night. Even if they are already asleep, always go and say goodnight. It is so reassuring to know that whatever plans they may have that day, their parents are always there for them at the beginning and end of everything. Tell them you love them every day, multiple times a day, even if you are fighting and very mad at each other. You never know when you will lose the opportunity to express your love.

Talk to your children and encourage them to talk to you. While they may not want to share every detail of their lives, they need to know that you are there for them if they have a problem. Listen to them without making judgments or telling them why they are wrong. Try to understand their problem and consider solutions together. As a parent, if your child has done something wrong, there should be a image 20 5 ways to show your teen that you love themconsequence, but be sure to explain why they are being punished. Communication is the key to a solid relationship.

Always ask them questions about their plans. They may get annoyed when you ask them where they are going, with who, what they are doing, how they are getting there, why they are going there, and when they will be home, but in time they will understand that you only ask all these questions because you want to keep them safe. Sometimes children do not understand the risks out in the world, but eventually they will thank you for protecting them.

Help your child with their schoolwork and emphasise the value of a good education. While children do most of their academic learning at school, education can be further fostered at home. This is a great way to teach them time management and learn their strengths. It will prepare them for college and life.

Take an interest in your children. Ask them questions about their lives and be genuinely interested in their responses. Find out why they like the things they do and then go participate in the activity with them. Always express how you care about their interests and goals.

Generally, show your children you care at every opportunity. Try not to yell, and if you do lose your temper, take time later to talk to your child about why and how the situation could have been better handled. A teen will feel the most loved if they feel safe and appreciated in their own house, if they know that it is ok if they make mistakes, and if they are comfortable enough to seek advice for their problems from you.

Introducing Children to Art Thursday, October 7th, 2010

Children and art go hand in hand from a young age, but introducing your children to art in a more formal way does take a little planning. Most children that take to art right away are those that are introduced to it at a very young age and repeatedly, rather than intermittent periods of exposure so make sure you include art in every aspect of your child’s young life. There are several easy ways to include art in children’s life that are fun, natural and not at all forced, proving to be a positive experience in the end.image 3 Introducing Children to Art

To begin with, introduce art to children that they can relate to and comprehend when they first see it. Do not try to introduce complex styles of art that involves a lot of analytical thinking, because children have not developed this type of thought process yet and will not be able to relate to art of this type and enjoy it further. To teach art, introduce colors, start with the basics, and let them explore and experiment with the color spectrum and find out what they can do with it. Show them the different ways to create lines and designs using both finished products and a step by step approach so that they can try it themselves.

No matter what, it is important that you encourage children in whatever art they decide to create themselves, and whatever opinion they have about art because everyone enjoys and experiences art differently. Encourage them to try new colors, styles, media and things that they may not have learned about yet too. Provide children with materials of their own that they are comfortable being creative with whenever it strikes them, in this way, there will be nothing odd about art and they will create. Repetitive and positive reinforcement of art is the best way to introduce children to art and ensure that they are interested for as long as they can find joy in it.

Teenagers and STDs – The Ugly Truth Friday, May 28th, 2010

As a parent, you probably dread having “the talk” with your teen; if you’ve already gotten that awkward parenting item out of the way, have you talked with your teenager about STDs? If you haven’t – you should.

Much as you might want to stick your fingers in your ears and go “lalalalala”, the facts are standing right in front of you with their hands on their hips, tapping their foot and waiting for you to grow up and pay attention. Take your fingers out of your ears and listen up.

Every year, the Centers for Disease Control receive reports on 19 MILLION cases of sexually transmitted diseases each year. Nearly half – that’s about 9 million cases – occur in people between the ages of 15 and 24. Like it or not, if your teen is, or becomes, sexually active, they are at risk, and its up to you as the parent to give them the information they need to keep themselves healthy.

Untreated, an STD can lead to severe consequences – consequences that can last a lifetime. Consequences ranging from infertility to lifetime dysfunction can result from sexually transmitted diseases, and that’s from the ones that can be cured. Some STDs are incurable; even though treatment can improve quality of life, they will always be infected with the disease itself. Your teenager needs to understand this.

Abstinence is, and always will be, the best way to prevent catching an STD. Let your teen know that being sexually active is a big responsibility, and that it’s ok to choose NOT to be active at this time in his or her life. Most sexually active teens say that they wish they’d chosen to wait longer before taking that step; be sure that they can rely on your support in choosing that option. Let them know, too, that, if they’ve already been active, they can choose to stop having sex. Just because you’ve done it before doesn’t mean you have to continue.

However, don’t be blind to the fact that your teenager might already be sexually active, or may become that way. Teach them about safe sex practices; yes, it’s going to be awkward, but you’d rather have them embarrassed than infected with something like chlamydia or gonorrhea.

No matter what, be sure that your teenager understands that they can come to you, whatever their questions or concerns about this delicate subject, and that you’ll give them clear, honest answers to their questions. More than anything else, your teen needs to know that you love them, no matter what.

Do they really listen? Thursday, August 21st, 2008

Often times, it seems that our children pay no attention to what we are saying. I can talk for hours on end, instructing them something they need to do. Time and time again, I will find that they did not actually complete the task which they were told. Most of these times, they will tell me they forgot, or that I never commanded for them do any such thing. These recurring situations make me furious, as I feel they never actually listen to what they are saying.

My teenagers especially have caused me this form of ailment. Each one, after being granted with a vehicle, was warned of their curfew prior to receiving their license. However, each of my kids has failed to follow this order, each returning home tardy on multiple occasions.

After dealing with this for years, I have found that, in actuality, our kids choose not to listen. With this capacity for selective hearing, they find it easy to make excuses when they infringe on our orders. With this in mind, any parent would inquire as to how they could enforce their instructions with added stability, to ensure that our children actually consume the purpose of our conversation.

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The Perfect Parent – I Think Not Tuesday, August 19th, 2008

Teenagers are almost certainly the most difficult group of human beings to deal with. Within years it seem, our adorable young’s ones mutate into the most stubborn people on the face of the earth. The wavering emotions, demanding attitudes, and endless disrespect collaborate to form the new face of our children, to which we have not yet been introduced. Though the love between us never ceases, life can become challenging as our children progress through these unsound years.

As kids ourselves, most parents probably imagined having the flawless family – respectful kids, a remarkable spouse, and the appreciated status of the perfect parent. Many of these imaginations have been manifested in our mind from stereotypes, seen from common sources such as Television Shows. As a child, I specifically remember idolizing the Walton’s family, and the integrity which followed their family relations.

Fortunately, as I began fostering my own spouse and family, I was presented with a reality check of sorts. I found that, in the real world, trouble arises within the household, particularly among our/ teenage children. In reality, we as parents are disposed to take care of our children, providing them with the needs which accompany this responsibility. With this responsibility, we are dually granted with considerable stress.

With this realization I also found that it was impossible for me to be the perfect parent. Regardless of my intentions, I will always make mistakes as a parent, and so will my child. During the teenage years, I have also matured. While these years have been stressful, they provide a means for seamless transition to adulthood. With each child, I have learned to love and respect them as an individual, though they may not follow the ideals I had in mind.

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Keeping Teenagers away from the Computer Sunday, August 17th, 2008

As technology advances, the prospective dangers which threaten our children become more apparent, especially in online platforms. In recent years, the amount of internet use has grown significantly, as children can often find entertainment surfing the web.

According to statistics, most of our children use the internet prolifically, for various purposes. Last year, the American Psychological Association conductive extensive surveying on this issue, questioning over one million teens on their internet habits. These statistics reveal that over 71% of teenager’s possess online profiles, and nearly all of them have subscribed to some sort of emailing service.

Additionally, it has been recorded that 64% of teenagers have, at some point, publicly posted vulnerable information about themselves on the web. By doing this, teenagers place themselves in jeopardy of befalling dangerous incidents, as a result of the information they have disclosed. In this same survey, it was found that over 16% of teenagers have been asked to perform a face-to-face meeting with an online acquaintance, though most have been smart enough to decline. This statistic, which does not include the large amount of teenagers who post pictures of themselves online, confirms the risk which we take by granting continual internet use to our teenagers.

When the internet was first introduced, it revealed a positive experience which would allow future generations a wholesome and enriching environment. However, though the internet is still a great resource, it has also opened up the door to dangerous, unsolicited perils. As parents, it is now our responsibility to emphasize the positive qualities of this resource.

While social networks and chatting facilities are a great form of entertainment, they must be used shrewdly, and should be considered with the appropriate discretion.

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Lack of Respect for Young People By The Media? Wednesday, August 6th, 2008

If you read your daily newspaper you are probably well aware that it is not exactly targeted for young people. Quickly looking through the sections of the paper, besides the comics and an occasional teen blurb, there really isn’t much that would appeal to teenagers or young people. As a result, teens and other young people are taking to the internet to get their news and stay informed. Paper newspapers are getting more and more irrelevant for young individuals.

Consider the major sections of the newspaper. You will find, amongst others, Homes, Working, Cars, Wine and Fine Dining, Travel and Money. Now, honestly, most young people could care less about these things. In contrast, the topics available on the internet are much are varied and are not as static. Individuals can find up-to-the minute news. Consequently, traditional newspapers have become out-of-date for the younger generations and the internet has become their primary source of news.

Advertising is a large part of why certain sections are included in the newspapers. Newspapers require advertising to survive and the above sections provide the most revenue. While newspaper sales continue to be fairly strong, if newspaper executives don’t find a way to connect with younger readers, then the long term sustainability of the business may be in jeopardy.

Teens and Social Media Monday, August 4th, 2008

Many young people are authoring blogs, websites and Myspace pages. This allows them to express themselves, engage in self reflection, self-actualization and realization. It also gives them the chance to express some creativity and interact with other teens.

However, the internet can also be a dangerous place. There are adult predators and teen bullies. Young people can also be their own worst enemies and discuss behaviors that are dangerous to themselves such as suicide, eating disorders and cutting. To help protect your teen or child while on the internet, it is important to take certain actions.

Keep track of what your teen or child is doing on the internet. Consider some sort of software that records what sites are visited. You can also check your computer’s history, although teens are savvy enough to simply erase it. Also, put the computer in a family area that is well trafficked. This will discourage your teen from engaging in risky and inappropriate behavior online.

I know that there has been a big deal made about teen privacy. But I’m sure that many parents of teens that have ended up dead or injured (whether physically or emotionally) wished they had been a little more involved and nosey. It is better to be proactive and little overbearing then to be sad and mourning after your teen has managed to get themselves into trouble that you nor them can handle

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