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Five Indicators Your Child Is Being Bullied Saturday, March 19th, 2011

Just as an animal is protective of his young so are parents equally protective of their children. However, parents are not able to supervise their children every minute of the day. There are many things that can happen to your child while he or she is out of your sight. Bullying is one of the things that may occur and your child may be scared to let you this is happening. This usually occurs when your child has been intimidated into silence. Knowing this, we have prepared this article to help you identify the 5 indicators your child is being bullied. This will help you to handle your child’s self-imposed silence and decisively address the problem.

1. Unexplainable fear of going to school
A child who is being bullied may be afraid of going to school because he wants to avoid the trauma that will be experienced at the hand of a bully or several bullies. Your child may express a reluctance to participate in extracurricular activities available at his school. He or she may claim a disinterest in becoming involved and prefers to get home immediately after school.

2. Unexplained cuts and bruises
A child who is being bullied may return home with frequent cuts and bruises which cannot be explained. On the other hand, the explanation provided for the cuts may not seem logical and the story may have several gaps. Frequent cuts and scratches is an indicator that something is wrong and should be investigated with the school’s administration.

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3. Unkempt appearance and missing school items
A child who arrives home with torn clothing or missing belongings may be suffering the effects of bullying. Bullies tend to physically harass their victims and forcefully take away items which belong to the victim. This is a way to reinforce the victim’s helplessness and cause the child to be in a constant state of fear.

4. Nightmares or sleeping problems
The trauma that a child experiences when he or she is being bullied may manifest itself in irregular sleep patterns and even nightmares. Some children may be so affected that they start to wet their beds during sleep. While the child is sleeping, he may be reliving the bullying experience and become even more disturbed.

5. Developing strange habits
Since the child who is being bullied wants to avoid confrontation, he or she may seem hesitant or afraid to walk to and from school and take longer routes to get from home to school. Additionally, he or she may not want to take the school bus and find every excuse to use another form of transportation.

Bullying is real and its effects can be detrimental to your child’s physical and mental well-being. Therefore, knowing the signs of bullying is critical for every parent. The 5 indicators your child is being
bullied should help to open your eyes to this challenge of childhood. There are other indicators but the 5 indicators your child is being bullied found in this article will help you on your way to further research.

5 Challenges of the Secondary School Parent Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

Oh the teenage years!! This is a time of trepidation and anxiety for many parents. As children move from primary to secondary school, they begin to experience physical and emotional changes. This can become a time of great turbulence for both the teenager and their parents as they try to maintain a middle ground. Teenagers are trying to understand and deal with this new phase of life while parents are simply trying to understand what is happening with their child. This article was written to communicate the 5 challenges of the secondary school parent as listed below.

1. Helping the child to manage peer pressure
This is probably one of the biggest challenges that most parents will face at this stage of their child’s development. The secondary school student places a lot of emphasis on belonging and wanting to be ‘a part of the crowd’. The pressure and the need to belong can become so strong that the child engages in behavior that the parents find unacceptable. These could include skipping classes, substance abuse, missing curfews and getting involved in illegal activities.

2. Maintaining harmonious relations
Since teenagers will experience a wide spectrum of emotions, parents will have to know how to effectively manage these roller coaster emotions. Some parents may find that their secondary school child may become very argumentative or even withdrawn. These kinds of behaviors may lead to tension between parent and child which could escalate leaving a gulf between the two. However, this can be overcome if a healthy relationship has already been established.image 50 5 Challenges of the Secondary School Parent

3. Maintaining Discipline
The secondary school child will tend to display feelings of independence and the desire to have autonomy over decisions that affect his or her life. Maintaining discipline is a huge challenge as parents attempt to balance restriction with freedom. Some children may view the parents attempt at discipline as unnecessary and unmerited and react in a negative manner. The challenge for parents is to find the mode of discipline that best reinforces positive behavior.

4. Helping the child to develop good time management skills
Your average teenager has school work, chores and social life. As such, they have to seek to balance all three so that the most important things are done first. Undoubtedly, school work is high on the list of priorities followed by completing assigned chores. The challenge that many secondary school parents face is that children tend to spend more time on social and recreational activities as opposed to school work or chores.

5. Choosing the right career path
At this stage, the child is being prepared to move into a career path of choice. However, sometimes conflicts arise with what the child desires and what the parents deem is best. The challenge which exists is the ability of the parents to realistically match their child’s natural abilities with the appropriate career choice. At this juncture, emotions sometimes override reason and logic.

The 5 challenges of the secondary school parent are real and true to life. The truth is many parents have successfully surmounted these challenges and have great testimonials. Learning from the experiences of others can help to empower you as you parent your secondary school child.

Five Things To Know From Your Child’s Teacher Sunday, March 6th, 2011

‘It takes a community to raise a child’. The truth is your child spends a great deal of his time at school where the teacher is his unofficial guardian. Therefore, it is important for parents and teachers to develop a solid relationship so that parents are aware of what is happening to their child outside of the home. It is true that children may display one behavior at home and a completely opposite behavior at school. At this point, hearing from your child’s teacher becomes vital. This article presents 5 things to know from your child’s teacher.

1. Problems in attendance or tardiness
This is important information for parents. The child may leave for school but may not get to school or get there very late. There is no way to image 47 Five Things To Know From Your Childs Teacherknow this is happening unless the teacher brings it to your attention. Once you are aware, then you can engage the child in a conversation to ascertain the reason(s) for inconsistent attendance or habitual tardiness.

2. Any unusual or uncharacteristic behavior
This could take the form of withdrawal from class mates, lack of interest in activities and poor concentration. These may be symptoms of a deeper problem such as depression. Knowing that your child may be displaying these kinds of behavior may prompt you to seek the help of a counselor if you are not able to handle the situation. You want to be in a position to deal with the matter early instead of waiting until it escalates into a bigger issue.

3. Your child’s performance
As a parent, it is important to monitor your child’s academic progress and growth. If the child is not doing well, it is important to get this feedback from the teacher. You may need to ask the teacher some probing questions in an attempt to ascertain the possible reasons for the child’s underperformance. While the teacher cannot advise you that your child may have a learning disorder, the responses may prompt you to seek professional advice.

4. Conformance to rules
Knowing if your child is getting in trouble at school is helpful information. The child may be suffering from pent up anger or frustration and releases these emotions at school. The anger may be a result of things which are happening at home that is adversely affecting the child. He may feel unable or unwilling to express these feelings at home but does so freely at school. If you become aware of this problem then counseling could be sought for the entire family unit.
5. Health and safety incidences
As a parent, you will to need to know from your child’s teacher if there have been any incidences of frequent headaches, stomach aches or any health-related concerns. Was there any incidence when you child fainted, got a fall or had to see the school nurse? This information is critical as some incidences may be symptoms of deeper problems which you want to address quickly.

Your child’s well-being at home and school is important. Therefore, parents and teachers will need to band together to achieve this goal. One of the ways to keep this relationship alive is through active Parent-Teachers associations. This provides an avenue for parents and teachers to share in the responsibility of raising healthy human beings.







Secondary School Birthday Party Ideas Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

590007895 dceb1f38a0 300x225 Secondary School Birthday Party IdeasBirthday parties are a great way to create memories and no matter the age, every child loves being the star of their very own production on their birthday.  Children who are attending secondary school are old enough to participate in the planning of the party.  Make sure to involve them in the selection of a theme and colors, guest lists, food, games and other aspects of the party.

It’s always easier to plan a birthday party if you have selected a theme or a party idea.  You may be inspired by your child’s favorite activity, hobby or interest.  Speak with your child and find out what theme they would like to have for their party.  Do a little research and suggest some ideas of your own.

A very popular idea for secondary school children are sleep over parties.  This is likely to involve a smaller number of children than a traditional birthday party.   Once you have decided on the precise number of guests, make sure to have adequate sleeping places for your guests.  This may mean getting extra sleeping bags into the designated sleeping area.  For older girls, a spa sleepover party is sure to be a hit.  If your budget allows, you may hire a professional who can treat your guests to manicures, pedicures and hairstyles.  If you are unable to afford this, the girls can treat themselves to manicures and pedicures without the help of a professional.

Boys can also have sleep over birthday parties.  A movie night with friends is a great idea for teenage boys.  Make sure that the movie is age appropriate and one that most or all of his guests have not seen.  Have enough finger food including popcorn and try to recreate the setting of a movie theatre.  Include other outdoor activities and end with the movie.  Follow up in the morning with a big breakfast and your child and his guests are sure to have a good time.

Girls love to dress up.  Having a supermodel birthday party will surely make them ecstatic.  This idea needs good organization as girls will become runway models who will change a number of outfits and take fabulous glamour shots.  Help will be needed to organize and change outfits and to apply make-up.   A very special touch to the party would be to print the photographs and include them in their gift bags before the party ends.

For secondary school age children, an amusement park birthday party will provide roller coaster tons of fun.  The formalities of cutting the cake and opening presents can be done before or after attending the park.  To reduce costs, a picnic lunch may be taken along to provide an alternative to expensive amusement park food.

As you plan your secondary school birthday party, bear in mind your child’s preferences as well as the level of organization required to bring his fantasies to life.  Give yourself adequate time and also work out a budget.  Enlist the help of friends and family to make sure your child has a super secondary school birthday party.

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