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Five Ways To Get Your Child To Do Their Chores Monday, February 28th, 2011

Have you ever struggled with getting your children to do the simplest chore? Do you find it frustrating running behind them to ensure the task is done? If you have answered yes to these questions then this article was written just for you. In this article, you will find 5 ways to get your child to do their chores. It is important to know that assigning chores to your child is a way of helping them to assume responsibility. Therefore, getting your child to do chores is important to his development as a person.

1. Help your child to understand the purpose of doing chores

Spending time to talk with your child on the value of chores to his life will change his or her view of the task. Instead of seeing doing chores as unwanted work, your child will understand the life skills which can be developed from doing assigned tasks. These skills include responsibility, contribution and competence among others.

2. Create a chart or checklist image 45 Five Ways To Get Your Child To Do Their Chores

This will include the days of the week and the chores assigned to each day. You can get your child’s involvement in making the checklist creative. To make it fun, they can place colorful stickers on the tasks which they have completed. They can choose the stickers they want purchased or they can create their own. This exercise will create a feeling of ownership in your child.

3. Design a reward system

Even though you may not want the child to feel that he is being paid to do his chores, you certainly want to create a sense of reward for a job well done. Giving your child a weekly allowance will stimulate motivation. Additionally, your child will have some spending money to buy small items. This gives you a great opportunity to teach your child how to manage money.

4. Make chores a family and fun event

There are some chores which can be done as a family unit. This brings a sense of oneness as the family works together to achieve the same goal. It also provides an atmosphere of bonding and interaction between family members. Making the experience fun is one way of creating good and lasting memories. It will also help to reinforce the belief that work can be fun.

5. Let your child know the consequences of not completing chores

Helping your child to understand the consequences of his action is an important lesson. Your child needs to know that if the chores are not done, then he will be restricted from his recreational activities and lose his allowance. If he is unable to complete a task, he needs to let you know or make other arrangements to have the task completed.

Getting your child to chores does not have to be a fighting match or a frustrating experience. You can use a combination of the 5 ways to get your child to do their chores as a starting point. There are other resources available which can offer more information and guide you in this area. You can incorporate the 5 ways to get your child to do their chores with other information for a full program.


5 Challenges of a Parent Who Works Away From Home A lot Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

It is a reality that some fathers are not fortunate enough to spend a lot of time with their kids. In a time of globalization, it is becoming more and more common for parents to travel overseas often. Even if the job only requires travelling across country, the distance is still substantial enough to take a toll on the family. It leaves the children with an unstable household and causes the parents to have to solve the problem of who will take care of the child. This is particularly important for the initial two years of the child’s life as this forms the base for the child’s future relationships. If the parent has to be absent during this time due to work restrictions, then the parent will face some challenges.

Financial concerns: These involve the cost of child care, issues with the permanence of health insurance coverage and loss of income image 44 5 Challenges of a Parent Who Works Away From Home A lot

associated with missed work days. Missed worked days can be as a result of the child’s health care needs.

Children’s interests: A big issue is the impact of work commitments on the children’s future academic success, mental health and ability to form relationships. If not handled correctly, an absent parent can be a traumatic experience for a child. It is possible for them to develop insecurities and anger issues. They may also experience depression and remove themselves from social activities. Also possible, is the experience of learning disabilities. They can also be more likely to become sexually active at a young age (this most likely happens to girls without a father).

Household safety and security: Household safety is most likely to become a concern when the “protector” of the house is absent for long periods of time. Especially in cases where the mother has to work too and the kids are deemed as too old to be babysat, they must stay in a house without parental supervision. It is recommended that parents limit the amount of time that kids are left at home alone due to the associated risks. These risks involve physical dangers and medical emergencies. There is help available from schools, churches, synagogues and community centers that offer after-school programs for children who spend several hours at home alone.

Logistical issues: These problems are concerned with organizing the details of home life such as arranging for child care, handling a sick child, etc.

Stability of the marital relationship: When a spouse is absent frequently for work purposes, this can negatively impact the marital relationship. The added stress that the home-based parent may have with juggling house responsibilities, the kids and in some cases, their own job priorities, can cause resentment.

The challenges of being away from home because of work are many. However, as an involved parent, it is key to help your kids understand why it is you are not around all the time. No matter the age of your kids, it will affect them if not carefully handled. When you are at home, ensure to spend as much time as possible with your kids and when you are at work, let them know you are thinking about them by sending them an e-mail, text or give them a quick call. Just because your job requires you to be absent from home, doesn’t mean you have to be an absent parent.


TECHNIQUES TO HELP YOUR CHILD SLEEP WELL Friday, January 21st, 2011

Few things are as irritating as not being able to sleep properly. Children require a lot more sleep than adults, as it’s necessary for the proper growth and development. The average child requires at least 9 hours of sleep per day and, in the case of babies, it can be as much as 18 hours. If your child experiences discomfort while sleeping or trying to sleep you are not alone, as this is one of the leading problems most parents have with their children. There are a few things you can do to help them to sleep well.

A simple way of helping your child to sleep better is by manipulating the amount of light available in the child’s room. People sleep better in dimly lit areas; this is because bright light inhibits the production of melatonin, a natural hormone that the body produces which aids in sleeping. By using thick curtains that don’t let bright light through, and by reducing night lights, you can enhance your child’s sleeping experience.

Developing a bed time routine can go a long way in helping your child sleep properly. Your bed time routine should constitute moments of love and affection to help the child relax; it may include telling a story, humming or just cuddling. Bed time routines should be brief and ideally should take place in the room where the child is going sleep. Timing is also very important, as it is not a good idea to force your child to sleep. Take note of the child’s behavior; when he/she begins to slow down and display other signs of being tired, then it is the perfect time to put your routine into action.

Encouraging your child to be active can also help them to sleep well. Sleeping is a recovery process; the more energy you exert during the day, the greater your body’s need for rest at night. It is important that you do not give the child any food or drink with caffeine less than six hours before bedtime, as this will just reenergize the child by suppressing the production of melatonin while increasing adrenalin levels. Also, avoid giving child big meals before bed time.

image 31 TECHNIQUES TO HELP YOUR CHILD SLEEP WELLComfort is necessary for anyone to sleep well, especially children. Many things can affect comfort level, such as temperature, noise, quality of the bed and so on. Extreme heat or cold will certainly inhibit a child’s ability to relax; children tend to sleep better when the room is nice and cool. As a parent, you want to make sure your child’s bed is not worn out and lumpy; you also want to make sure all bed linens are clean. There is a school of thought that the noise made by running fans and vaporizers helps babies to sleep better, as it simulates the sound babies hear in the womb.

These are some of the many ways you can use to help your child get the necessary amount of sleep required for his/her development. Sleep deprivation can seriously affect a child’s quality of life, so the onus is on you, the parent, to make the sleeping experience as pleasant as possible.


How to cope with a second birth. Sunday, January 9th, 2011

When you have your first baby, your head can be in a whirl. There
is all that expectation of the actual birth and so many other
thoughts and fears going on inside your head. Then there is choosing a name for the new arrival, and getting the nursery
prepared. It can feel like that there will never be enough hours in
the day to manage it all. I often feel that this is mother natures way
of getting you ready for motherhood, because then it gets really
busy.

However if this is not your first baby, there can be a lot of
difference in how you need to handle the whole event. You may
not feel quiet so anxious this time round. Obviously that is a good
thing, but you may find yourself not being so excited about the
happy event. This does not make this new birth any less important
to you, its just that you have other areas in your life to focus on.
When you had your first baby. You had only the new arrival to
think about. Now there will be another little one at home. Who
needs your attention just as much.

During your pregnancy you will be more concerned about the
welfare of your other children or child to worry about what stage
of the development the unborn baby is in. This may feel like you
do not care as much. In fact its the opposite, you’re just being a
good mother.

Before you know it, those nine months have flown by. You now
have to prepare yourself for the birthing day. Only this time you
have another task as well.

You have to prepare your other little ones for the arrival of the
new baby. Their life will be different from now on as well.

The main thing is not make them feel left out. If they feel involved
in the whole process that can help. Let them choose a few things
for the nursery. Ask them if they want to share any of their own
toys. Let them be involved in the naming of the new arrival. I do
not mean that you should hand over all responsibility to the child,
because you will be guiding them through the whole event.

Giving them this sense of involvement can make a huge difference
to how the child copes with another baby taking some of its
mothers attention. They will not feel so left out.

image 23 How to cope with a second birth.

Make sure that you have some time in the day, where they have
you to themselves. Juggling all of this is not easy, but those early
bonding moments last forever.


The art of parenting. Thursday, January 6th, 2011

Raising a child introduces you to a helter skelter of different
emotions. Just when you think that you have finished the book,
another secret chapter appears that nobody told you about.
There are twists and turns everywhere. It’s not like you can go to a
simage 22 The art of parenting.chool and learn everything in one go. Each child is so different,
and will have his or her unique way of taking on the world.

The thing to remember is not to think that you have to be perfect.
You will make mistakes. That it is just part of the course. Its an
impossible task to get right. What works in raising your first child,
might not even come close with your second. The reason behind
this is simple. Even though the second child may raised under the
same rules and conditions. They may respond in a completely
different way. We are all different creatures. We do not all share
the same thoughts and desires. What makes us individuals, makes
us great. So if as a parent you are sometimes confused. You are far
from alone.

You will find yourself constantly having to think on your feet. As
the rules seem to change right in front of your eyes. Do you know
your child probably feels the same.

Often to them the world is this massive arena full of adults who
are only intent on destroying their visions. By that they mean fun.
So do not expect to be thanked too many times on your journey
through parenthood.


Single parenting. Monday, January 3rd, 2011

Parenting is a hard enough task when shared between a couple, but
left to just one parent it becomes a whole new world. A
responsibility left to one person makes the task twice as hard.
Sometimes problems that are really not that big, will seem like
your world has caved in.

If you find yourself in the position of being a single parent, then
parenting advice will be so useful to you. Often the best advice
can come from your own parents. After all they have been through
it already.

Although the world will have changed since you were a child, and your child will live with different technology and different
attitudes. The role of the parent has not changed at all. So your
parents may struggle with some new inventions, or not like how
world has changed, but they will still know what is important in
being a parent.

Some parenting skills will be built into you, and some you will
have to learn from others. There are many ways in which you can
gain parenting advice. Look for parenting books at your local
library. They will almost certainly have a wide selection. Also a
great place to look for parenting advice is an article directory
on the Internet. Most of the big directories will have massive
collection of parenting articles.

You may find a parenting class being held somewhere close to
you. These classes could give you the chance not just to ask
questions or advice, but also to be able to make contacts and
friends who are also in the same position as you.

Remember as a single parent, your role will sometimes seem that
much harder. It would be easy to let this get you down. You have
to remember that there are many places to get advice and help.
You are never really ever alone.


What age should I give my child a cell phone? Wednesday, October 27th, 2010

The irony in telling your child how times have changed and sounding just like your own parents is an undeniable part of being a parent. Over the past decade times went from slowly changing with fashions, pop culture, music and even transportation to a world that functions totally dependent on technology. Whether you have become a techie or despise the whole phenomenon, one commonly accepted device during this change has been the cell phone. While adults themselves are becoming attached and codependent on theirs, you may also find yourself wondering “at what age should I give my child a cell phone?”

Providing your child with their own cell phone actually has more benefits to it than the negative aspects. Giving your child a cell phone provides a level of safety that simply wasn’t available for youth in past generations. For example, when your child is out with friends, working a part time job or involved in after school activities, they can contact you for a ride home or simply if they will be later than anticipated. That rule also applies to you the parent should you be running behind schedule and need to notify your child of such changes. Many parents feel a bit more at ease when their children are in their teen years and begin to go out more with their friends; they begin driving or even perhaps dating. During these years teens strive for their freedom and parents are less reluctant to oblige them when they know they can call them and check in. image 17 What age should I give my child a cell phone?

Certainly with all the previously mentioned benefits, there are still a few valid concerns when issuing a cell phone to any child. The most common is for those teenagers that are of the age to drive as parents do not want them texting or making phone calls while driving. This is a dangerous combination when you mix an inexperienced driver with any form of distraction, but many parents have successfully gotten a hold of the situation with their teens. Inform your child that on the bill statement it displays the exact time when any texting or calls occur and that the first incident made while the child was commuting somewhere will certainly be their last. That pitch is very effective and it also controls the amount of use your child can have with their phone. Establish set times that cell phones are not to be utilized, such as at a specific time in the evenings and during family dinners.

If you can trust your child to be responsible and not to be careless with their phone at eleven years old, then go with your instinct and provide them with one. It may not be until your child is seventeen years old before you fully feel comfortable with them having one, regardless of the age you will need to monitor the use and if it appears to be under control then you made the right decision. A cell phone isn’t permanent it can certainly be taken off the child if it becomes as issue but most parents feel it lessens their stress load to provide another line of communication with their child to stay on top of the family schedules.


What to do to help your child as you move home Friday, October 15th, 2010

Helping your child as you move home can pose a few challenges, but in many cases it opens the doors to communicate with your children and provide them with a better understanding of how life can take certain twists and turns and how to implement changes successfully. This topic can be reflected in two separate theories, the first is if you are moving home as in back with your parents and the other is if your child is moving back in with you. Both scenarios seem to be occurring rather frequently in many households across the globe and that’s due mostly to economic standards and how challenging it can be to keep up with them for many folks.

image 14 What to do to help your child as you move homeIf you are moving back into your parent’s home with your child or children, then prepare them for it as far in advance as possible. Children do not like surprises such as this especially if they are teenagers as they will most likely be transferring schools and that can be something they want nothing to do with. Inform your children if this will be a temporary housing arrangement and focus on the positives of the move. They may now have the opportunity to spend more time with their grandparents and have the ability to still remain in contact with their friends from their former school if that interests them. Encourage them to embrace change as life is full of it as adults and at some point they must learn that with every change in their lives they learn and grow as people from them. Ensure them that they will make new friends and that every town has its benefits as they may even like it better than where they came from. Also it is important to make sure the children follow rules when in your parent’s home as it should be respected and they should equally respect their grandparents and their space.

When you have an older child that is moving home from college or simply as a young adult until they get on their feet- then there are specific ways to cope with this situation as well. If your child is simply moving back home as a break from college or perhaps they’ve recently graduated and haven’t established themselves thus far, then that is typically just a temporary arrangement. For that situation you just need to set any rules you would like the child to abide by and follow through accordingly. Keep in mind the college kids have lived on their own and not had limitations for months, so don’t treat them as children but some responsibility should be still be upheld on their part. If you have a child that is an adult and they are moving back in with you then set the same rules you wish to be followed and do realize that they are adults now. Perhaps it’s for financial reasons or even a divorce that has resulted in your child moving back home, but be understanding and guide them to make a successful transition back into the worked on their own.


Good Parenting Monday, June 7th, 2010

good parenting 2 300x289 Good ParentingLet’s face it, parenting can be a chore but a rewarding chore. But not everyone is prepared to be a parent. Well usually no one is prepared to be a parent. Handling another life and raising them takes guts, brains, patience, and a lot of knowledge. If you’re reading this you obviously want the latter. Below are just a few basic good parenting methods you should begin using. They are proven to work.

Teach Them Independence

From a young age you should be teaching your children how to be independent. They should learn about the world and be exposed to its activities. Sheltering your child too much will leave him vulnerable and helpless in the future. While I will say you don’t have to let them get too much exposure you should moderate what they learn, watch, read, and use. There is a reason games are rated. There is a reason T.V. shows are rated. Pay attention to them!

Teach Them Often

Children always have questions, but they don’t always voice them. Teach them without asking. Explain things and show them what is what and which is which. Tell them differences and comparisons. You should let your child learn on their own but offer assistance if you see they might need it. However remember to always ask first. Your child might get things very quickly and not need your help at that time.

Show Them Love

Always show your children that you love them. Children from an early age to their teens need to be shown love. Hug them, kiss them, and take them with you on trips. Talk about life, things, and news. Voice opinions and even have a few debates. Connect with your child to make an everlasting impression of love. Love is what makes the world go round and love is what will ensure your child a happy and successful life.

Look The Other Way

Sometimes your child will say or do things you dislike or feel is completely wrong. However your child is simply voicing or expressing himself. If you take that away from them, they will retaliate. Instead just look the other way and focus on the good qualities of your child. Compliment your child and let them know what they are doing or saying is impressive or admirable.

Respect

Respect is not always a given. If you do not respect your children and how can you expect them to respect you? Respect is a two way street. It needs to be given to be received. Don’t do something or say something to your child that you wouldn’t want your child to do or say. Remember that you are the example and they look up to you. If they feel they are just being disrespected consistently they will do the same back.

Good parenting doesn’t come fast or easy; However, you can learn it. Use what I have written and see the results. Change and modify if needed.


5 Tips Every Parent Should Know Thursday, June 3rd, 2010

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Parenting is a huge step in life. As the parent of a newborn you might feel anxiety come upon you. How will you teach your child? What is good and bad? Most of the time you will teach them what you’ve been taught, but what if you’re wrong? What if your ideals are wrong? You begin to question and suddenly you have so many unanswered questions. Thats ok because that is what parenting is all about. You won’t have all the answers, but you can look for them!

Listed below are some basic parenting tips that I feel every parent should know.

Tip 1: You must remember to be patient and understand with your child. Whether they are a newborn or in their teen years they still won’t be “perfect”. They never will be! It is your job as a parent to guide and instruct, but not to force or enforce. You have to teach them and the way you teach them is by showing and doing. Try to be as patient as you can with your children. They will notice.

Tip 2: Your child will often doubt their abilities for numerous reasons. Sometimes it is other kids at schools or the media sending negative thoughts. It is your job to fill them with confidence but at the same time remaining truthful. You should embrace their goals and dreams. You want them to succeed don’t you? Keep confident in order to keep them confident!

Tip 3: Overloading never helped anyone, especially not a child. Your child will often have many activities going on in their lives but it is your job to see they can handle it all. If they’re falling behind in their school work because of sports, cut some sports. Their main job should be school. Allow them to have time for homework and studying. It is not uncommon for children to be overloaded so ensure you are the one to enforce breaks!

Tip 4: Always prioritize family time. Family time should be a sacred time. It allows you and your children to bond and discuss. This is a time for connection, never be afraid to tell your child your own dreams, goals, and aspirations. You will be surprised by your children. They look up to you for so many things.

Tip 5: Create something that your entire family does together. It can be board game night or even a movie night. Whatever it is make it a ritual. This will make a cemented family activity and could even turn into a tradition. Make the best of these moments and always remain in good spirits at this time. Even if you’re not feeling it.

Parenting isn’t easy, but who said it would be? These tips should help you get along. Use them, experiment with them, and modify if you have to. Find what works for you and stick with it!


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