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Teaching Children the Craft of Cooking at an Early Age Sunday, June 13th, 2010

cooking 300x296 Teaching Children the Craft of Cooking at an Early Age

Taking advantage of a child’s sponge like mind when they are young will only help them to evolve, and a child learning how to navigate around the kitchen is certainly no different.  Not only do they have an opportunity to hang out with you, but they are learning a valuable skill that will always be needed.

Common sense must be used in this endeavor due to safety aspects that exist in the kitchen.  Obviously knives, hot appliances, and hot food are all things that need to be under a close eye when teaching children at any age, but more so with smaller children.  However, there are other helpful things a smaller child can do such as stirring and prepping ingredients, counting eggs, measuring ingredients, etc.

You must keep in mind that, in the end, there will be a mess.  More than likely the process will take longer to prepare, the measurements will probably be off the mark, and they might not look like store bought cookies. But it doesn’t matter.  The cookies might not even turn out the greatest, but above all else…it’s fun!  Most importantly, assure the kids they did a good job and present zero negativity in the process.

The older they become the more sophisticated and creative you can get with your children.  Design or find a specific recipe that you can hand down and have your child cook it.  Allow them to make modifications or additions, in the process fueling their creativity.  Aside from that, we all know eating at home is a much healthier alternative.  You know exactly what was put in the food and how it got there.

The skill of cooking is something that will be with your children forever.  We all need to eat no matter who we are.  Teaching children at a young age will open their eyes to where food comes from, how it’s made, and what can be used together to make unique recipes.  A bonus to this whole process is that your child will begin to appreciate the time you spend in the kitchen preparing food.

When a child learns to cook, they will also acquire the ability to try something new.  They will also learn about vitamins, minerals, calories, trans fats, and other elements of food that too many people are unaware of.  Not relying on someone to put food in front of you can save you frustration, money, and overall health.  Who knows?  Maybe in the end of the learning process your child will take direction from cooking and be the next Rachel Ray or Emeril.


Keeping Them Safe on the Internet Friday, June 11th, 2010

internetSafety3 Keeping Them Safe on the InternetSince the advent of the internet and the increased popularity of its usage in everyday life, many have discovered its potential harm to children. If you want to protect your children from the negative aspects of the internet, you should set rules and guidelines. It is unreasonable to ban them from the use of the internet seeing that it is a useful tool to have, so limiting their access and teaching them what you think is appropriate is the right approach.

Though the internet is great for keeping in contact with people around the world as well as providing information useful for school and other purposes, it can present negative situations for their users. Not only does it expose children to offensive language and behaviors, but it may detract from a child’s development in terms of school, physical activity and social activities. As a result, you should ensure that time limits for internet usage are set in place and adhered to.

Limiting their access is achievable by setting parental controls. Parental controls allow you to block certain websites and email addresses, set time limits for use and prohibit the search of specified words. Parental controls should be discussed with your child before you implement them. This will aid their understanding of the potential dangers. It will also make them aware of websites you believe are inappropriate. Setting realistic limits is achievable by getting on the internet and seeing for yourself how it is used.

When setting guidelines, an important thing to consider is the location of the computer. If you want to keep a watchful eye on what your kids are doing online, it’s not a good idea to put the computer in their bedroom or any other location where a parent won’t be a constant parental presence. A recommended location is in the family room with the screen facing outward so you can easily monitor what is going on.

You should make it clear to your children that people on the internet aren’t always who they portray themselves to be and may pose a danger to them. They should also be taught that issuing personal information such as their name, home address, telephone number banking information, and passwords can lead to financial scams or bullying or worse! They should never try to keep secrets about anything that they deem as threatening or worrying away from you. For instance, cyber bullying must be reported to you as you can filter the addresses with the parental control list.

As a parent, you have full rights to check the history folder on the browser to check on what websites they have been visiting. You can also share your child’s email account and password if necessary. You can use online parental tools to route your child’s email first to your account so you can do your own filtering.

Following the tips mentioned above should be a sufficient means of keeping your children safe online. But in the event that their safety has been compromised, you can contact your internet service provider. They can be helpful if your child stumbles upon unsuitable content or has been exposed to inappropriate online contact. You should also update filtering software that protects against unsuitable internet access on a regular basis.


Importance of Healthy Breakfast for Children Wednesday, June 9th, 2010

breakfast 300x201 Importance of Healthy Breakfast for ChildrenParents, listen up: a good breakfast is a prerequisite to learning. Nutritious meals in the morning are essential for children to perform well in school and have active social lives as they grow up. Breakfast provides at least a quarter of a child’s energy for the day. Thus, if breakfast were missed, the child will be less alert and his learning potential substantially diminished.

When an inadequately nourished kid goes to school, he is likely to be more irritable and anxious, less inquisitive, tires quicker, less physically active, and not very sociable. Children who have empty, rumbling stomachs certainly will find it difficult to concentrate on their lessons.

On top of ensuring a full stomach, it is important to give children the right kind of foods at breakfast, since not all foods are created equal.

A healthy meal for children at the start of the day will positively impact learning. Studies have shown that students who have a nutritious breakfast have higher test scores and have generally better  performance than their counterparts who didn’t eat breakfast.

A healthy breakfast contains complex carbohydrates in the form of grains such as oatmeal, brown rice, cereals, proteins from meats, beans and nuts; fiber and vitamins from fruits and vegetables; and calcium and other minerals from milk, cheese and yogurt.

Fiber from complex carbohydrates creates the feeling of fullness, thereby ensuring mental alertness, while the glucose that you get from this food group is used by the brain as fuel during mental activity.

Researchers on a study of oatmeal, which is a prime example of food with  high complex carbohydrates, compared the effects of eating oatmeal or cereal at breakfast or having no breakfast at all, on the cognitive performance of 30 middle-income students. Over a three-week time frame, the students were asked to take tests minutes after eating their assigned breakfast. Those who didn’t have breakfast were also asked to take the mental examination.

The first study found out that among children ages six to eight, spatial memory skills (which are essential for subjects like math and geography) increased by almost 50% after eating oatmeal for breakfast as compared to having no breakfast at all. Forty-six percent of the children also improved their skills after eating oatmeal compared to when they ate cereals.

The second study found out that among children ages nine to 11 years old, 68 percent performed better when they ate oatmeal compared to those who didn’t have any breakfast.

The study cited the whole grain, high fiber, and high protein content of oatmeal as significantly affecting spatial memory performance. The study revealed that oatmeal, which is slow and continued release of glucose into the bloodstream and enhances cognitive performance.

Other emerging research confirms that oatmeal, or complex carbohydrates -in general, are best for the brain because they contain fiber that resists digestion, slowing its breakdown and the subsequent release of sugars into the bloodstream. This slow and even absorption of sugar is highly beneficial to the brain, as it performs better on a minimal yet constant supply of sugar.

So if you’re a parent planning a healthy breakfast menu for your children, don’t fail to include oatmeal into the diet. Oats, in almost all forms—rolled, old-fashioned, quick cooking, and even instant, is readily available for that hearty bowl of oatmeal or as ingredient to great-tasting and nutrition-packed recipes.


Being a Parent to a Teenager Friday, March 26th, 2010

While there are ups and downs to all the stages of parenting, the teenage years prove to be especially challenging. With all of the physical and emotional changes that occur during this period of tremendous growth, many teens experience feelings of confusion, loneliness, and even depression, which can cause their relationships with their parents or guardians to become strained. If you are the parent of a teenager who is finding it difficult to build a stable, mutually loving and respectful relationship with your child, then you are going to want to read this article at is provides useful parenting tips.
During your child’s teenage years, your teenager isn’t the only one going through a difficult transition. Having your son or daughter grow and mature from a child into a young adult is a complicated transition for you as the parent as well. You may be finding it difficult dealing with the idea that “your baby” is no longer a baby and that he or she is blossoming into a young man or woman. As your child becomes more adult-like and independent, you may be tempted to impede their growth by coddling them more, or on the flip side, imposing strict rules to restrict their autonomy. Of course, neither of these courses of action is recommended. What you want to do is try to find a happy medium where you allow your child certain liberties, but at the same time, let them know that with more independence comes more responsibility, and if they can’t handle these responsibilities, then there will be consequences.
A very important aspect of parenting a teenager is establishing open lines of communication. Rather than lecturing your teen or talking down to them, treat them more like an equal and launch your discussions as open dialogues where both you and your teenager are active listeners and participants. As you are talking, try not to come across like you are lecturing your teen. Even if you do not agree with what your teen has to say, it is important to allow their voice to be heard. Discuss the topics that you disagree about, tell them why you disagree without imposing your views as absolute. This will allow your teenager to learn better decision-making skills.
Setting aside a designated time a few times a week to talk with your teen is a great idea. Even if they would rather spend that time hanging out with their friends, you want your teen to know that you love them unconditionally and that you will always be there for them. With hectic work and social schedules, it can be easy for a child to feel like their parent doesn’t want to make time for them or that they are not a priority in their parent’s life. A parent who makes it known that they are available to their teen to talk and listen, even for just 15 uninterrupted minutes, is going to be on their way to building a stable and loving relationship with their child.
Another helpful parenting tip is to become aware of the behavioral patterns of teenagers today. Given the widespread use of the Internet and the power of the media, it is important for parents to pay attention to the content of what their teens are looking at and reading. Both the Internet and media can have a huge impact on the behavior and lifestyle choices that a teenager makes. As a result, parents should be mindful of what kinds of effects these outside influences are having on their child.


Communicating with your Teen Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

Being a parent is probably the most fulfilling role a person will play in their life. However, it is also likely to be the most challenging role as well. Amidst all of its rewards, being a parent is exhausting, stressful, and taxing, especially when your child becomes a teenager. The teenage years represent the transitional period from childhood into young adulthood. Making this transition can be very difficult for teens as they struggle with fitting in with their peers, balancing responsibility and independence, and dealing with physical changes. As a parent to a teenager, it is important to keep in mind that your child is going through a challenging time. Establishing open lines of communication where your teenager feels comfortable talking with you about what is going on in their life is one of the most beneficial things that you can do. Of course, this is much easier said than done. If you are parent of a teenager who would like to learn how to communicate more effectively with your child, then you are going to want to read this article as it offers useful parenting communication tips.

Tip 1: To the best of your ability, try not to seem condescending or talk down to your teenager. They are growing up and becoming more adult-like so you want to honor that and treat them as such. If you treat them more like equals and show them that their opinions and points of view really matter, then they will be less likely to be resentful and avoid communicating with you.

Tip 2: Put yourself in your teenager’s shoes. When talking with your teenager, it is very helpful if you take a trip down memory lane and try to remember what it was like when you yourself were a teenager. Thinking about the negative emotions and feeling of self-doubt that you experienced will allow you to be more compassionate and gain a better understanding of what your teenager is going though.

Tip 3: Empathy, empathy, and more empathy. Coinciding with tip 2, showing empathy towards your teen will allow them to feel like their voice is being heard and that they are understood. Teenagers often feel lonely and like no one understands them, so if you can actively create an environment in which your teen feels unconditionally loved, then they will be much more open to communicating with you.

Tip 4: Opening up and talking about personal matters is never an easy thing to do and it takes courage at any age. Keep this in mind when having a discussion with your teen and reward them when they demonstrate this kind of bravery by listening emphatically and respectfully.

Tip 5: Never ignore your teenager’s feelings and emotions because they could be cries for help. You want to be in tune with your teen’s behavior so that if they are acting uncharacteristically sad or angry you can intervene early to discover what is bothering them. While they may not want to talk to you right away, merely reaching out to them and letting them know that you are there for them when they are ready to talk will do worlds of good, just be delicate in your approach as you don’t want to come across like you are interrogating them.


Your Teenager and Discipline Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

Along with all the countless joys of parenting come much stress and heartbreak, especially during your child’s teenage year, which is a period of tremendous growth and change that can present many challenges and obstacles that may be difficult to handle. As a teenager, your child may be experiencing feelings of frustration and confusion over situations like trying to fit in with their peers, experiencing love for the first time, and dealing with their bodies’ physical changes. Moreover, as your child makes the transition from childhood to young adulthood, they are likely to want to have more independence, which as a result, may lead to them engaging in rebellious behavior. As a parent, these acts of rebellion can be very taxing to cope with. So, if you are a parent of a teenager who is looking for some helpful advice on how to manage your child during their teenage years, then you are going to want to read this article.
When it comes to disciplining your child at any age, it is always a challenge to find where the happy medium lies between being too overbearing where you look like a dictator to being too lax where you’d let your child get away with murder. A lot of what will determine the level of effectiveness of your disciplinary tactics will depend on how strong of a relationship you have with your teenager. If you have created an environment for your teenager to live in where they experience unconditional love and acceptance, then your teenager is much more likely to listen to you and show you respect.
A big part of building a solid relationship with your teenager is being open and honest and having discussions with them. You should never just lecture or talk at your teenager; this disciplinary tactic is highly ineffective. Help your teenager understand the decision making process and coach them on how to weigh the consequences of their actions. During these discussions, however, it is very important that you allow your teenager to be a part of the discussion and to let their voice be heard. As a parent, you should strive to be approachable and be ready to really listen to what your teenager has to say.
Becoming more independent is a huge factor of being a teenager. As a result, you should allow your teenager some leeway to explore and experiment with their newfound independence. A tremendous amount of growth and soul searching occurs during the teenage years and consequently parents should not be constantly dictating what their teenager should and should not do. It is very important to allow your teenager to discover their own path in life, even if they make a few mistakes along the way. Of course, do not give your teenager so much freedom that you are ignoring any early warning signs of trouble to come.
Setting curfews for your teenager is another effective parenting maneuver. A curfew will allow your teenager to embrace their independence while at the same time they are learning to be more responsible. The curfew that you set should be reasonable, most likely an earlier time on school nights and a later time on weekend nights. There should most definitely be ramifications if your teenager breaks their curfew, but that doesn’t mean you should over do it. If they are only 5 minutes past curfew, the punishment should not be as severe as if they were 3 hours late.
Parenting a teenager is by no means an easy feat, but with patience, understanding, and open communication you will be able to manage your child’s teenage years much more effectively.


Communicating with your Teenager Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

There are countless delights that coincide with being a parent. Seeing your child succeed at something that was difficult for them or having them say “I love you” to you are just a couple of examples. But for all the joyful instances that parents will experience, they will undoubtedly undergo numerous hardships as well that will be both stressful and upsetting. One of the most difficult periods of child rearing is the teenage years. During this time, there are so many emotional and physical changes that are occurring which can present many obstacles for your child. As a teenager, your child may be feeling like they don’t fit in or that they are misunderstood. These types of feelings often times will lead to acts of rebellion or cause teenagers to be disrespectful of distant from their parents. If you are a parent of a teenager and are looking for some advice on how to make your child’s teenage years as happy and stress-free as possible, then you are going to want to read this article as it offers helpful parenting tips.
Open communication is a key component of establishing an amenable and loving relationship with your teenager. Invoking a more dictatorial parenting style in which you try to control your teenager’s behavior, may prove to be ineffective. This parenting approach may succeed with younger children, but if parents attempt to control the behavior of their teenagers, the teenagers are likely to fight back and engage in acts of rebellion. As teenagers, it is important for parents to remember that their children are just starting to become more independent and to develop their own personal thoughts and opinions about the world that they live in. As a result, it is not advisable for parents to make anything strictly forbidden from their teenagers. Rather, parents should seek to create open lines of communication and talk to their teenagers as if they were adults to try and discern why they are acting the way that they are.
An effective tactic that can help parents communicate better with their teenagers is to schedule specific times to sit down and converse with them. These pre-scheduled meetings can occur anywhere from once a week to everyday. Although, fitting in an hour or so of conversation with your teenager everyday may prove to be a difficult task what with trying to work around not only your own busy schedule but your teenager’s as well, which is likely to be full of club meetings, homework, and sports practice. Therefore, it is probably best to shoot for scheduling conversations between 1 and 3 times per week. During these conversations, it is important that the entire focus be on creating a stronger relationship between yourself and your teenager. This means no distractions i.e. cell phones, television, I-pods, computers etc.
If you decide to try this tactic, remember to listen to your teenager and really try to empathize with them. At times, teenagers can feel very lonely and like they are not respected. You were once a teenager too. Try to remember what it was like for you when you were your child’s age and try to see things from their points of view. This is not to say, however, that when your teenager commits a wrongdoing that you should go easy on them all the time. Instead, when this type of situation arises, talk to your teenager as an adult, explaining to them why their behavior was inappropriate and asking them why they acted the way that they did.
Parenting teenagers is by no means an easy feat, but if you heed the advice in this article and strive to establish open lines of communication, you can make your child’s teenage years much more tolerable for both you and your child.


Tips for Parenting Teenagers Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Along with the countless joys that come with parenting, there are also significant hardships that can at times be very stressful and even heartbreaking. One of the most challenging child rearing periods is the teenage years. During this time, your child is going through so many changes both physically and emotionally, and they most likely will encounter many challenging obstacles as they make the transition from a child to a young adult. Some of the difficult feelings that your teenager may be coping with are angst, rebelliousness, heartbreak, or feeling like they are misunderstood or don’t fit in. Dealing with these feelings can often cause teenagers to become disrespectful or distant from their parents. If you are a parent of a teenager who is interested in learning about how to make their child’s transition into adulthood as smooth as possible, then you are going to want to read this blog as it offers useful parenting tips that can help you establish a more stable and loving relationship with your teenager.

Tip 1: Strive to create an environment of unconditional love and acceptance for your teenager. The teenage years are filled with insecurities and feelings of self-consciousness. For the most part, teenagers just want to feel like they fit in. While it will be difficult for parents to manage whether or not their teenagers feel accepted at school or in social environments among their peers, what they can do is build a loving and accepting atmosphere at home among family members where their teenagers can feel free to be themselves and know that they will always be loved no matter what. This will help create a strong foundation of solid self-worth for teenagers. So, even if they are having difficulties fitting in with their peers, they will know that they have a safe and caring environment to turn to in their homes.

Tip 2: Parents should reward their teenagers’ honesty. Seeing as many teenagers go through rebellious and experimental phases, it is likely that as a parent you will have to deal with your teenager engaging in some misconduct, which can include things like drug and alcohol use. If you find yourself in this type of situation, it is important to establish an open line of communication. You want your teenager to feel comfortable enough to talk to you if they are in trouble. This can prevent a bad situation from becoming worse. In order to help open the lines of communication, it is advisable to explain to teenagers that if they are in trouble, speaking honestly about the situation will lead to rewards and if they commit a wrongdoing but confess to it, then their punishment will be less severe. This parenting approach will help to open communication as well as to allow teenagers to see the positive remunerations of being honest. Moreover, parents should be honest with their teenagers too. If parents are open about their mistakes and are able to admit when they are wrong, then their teenagers will be much more likely to be open about their struggles.

Tip 3: Leave the past in the past. When parents bring up their teenagers’ past misdemeanors or wrongdoings to make a point, they are employing shame as a disciplining strategy. This is not a good way to create an environment of unconditional love and acceptance. In continuously reminding teenagers of their failures, parents are defining their teenagers not by who they are but by what they have done. It is important for parents to actively show their teenagers that they are forgiven for their mistakes so that their teenagers can learn from their lapses and not be filled with a sense of shame and low self-worth. In the act of forgiving their teenagers, parents will be communicating the message that the merit of the person is greater than the value of the offence.

Being a parent is without a doubt one of the most rewarding experiences an individual can have, but it is also one that will be filled with plenty of moments where you want to scream, cry, and bang your head against the wall. Being a parent to a teenager can be especially trying. As a result, keep the aforementioned tips in mind to the best of your ability and they will help guide you to a smoother passage through your child’s teenage years.


THE UNHAPPY HOUSE OF HORRORS: Managing Sibling Rivalry Sunday, January 31st, 2010

If you think about it, sibling rivalry is as old as Cain and Abel. Sibling rivalry is also what a lot of childhood fairytales are based. Think of Cinderella and her stepsisters. If the mere word, “sibling” comes up, it is almost certain that rivalry follows. Now that your happy home has become the unhappy house of horrors because your children are at odds constantly with one another, we need to first examine the causes for sibling rivalry.

To examine sibling rivalry is to look at it from the point of view of your child. If you consider it for a moment, your children do not choose the family they were born into, nor do they choose each other. They may be a different sex, different age and temperament, and most of all they have to share their parents whom they want most for themselves. In addition, you may have to consider the position in the family the children hold. The oldest child, for example, may feel burdened with the responsibilities of the younger children. The younger child may feel that he has to try to catch up with an older sibling. Another culprit to the rivalry may be the difference in the sex of the children. If the father shows gentleness to the daughter, the son may hate his sister for this reason. Or, the daughter may wish that she could along on a hunting trip with her father and brother. The difference in the age of the children may also contribute to the contention. At age five and eight, the children may play some games and activities together. However, when these children become ten and thirteen, they will most likely be worlds apart.*

Now, that we have looked at sibling rivalry from the point of view of the child and have a better understanding what the source of it is, how do we manage it? The most important factor is managing sibling rivalry is parental attitude. Your children are like sponges, and they will absorb the atmosphere of the environment of the family home. If you are setting the example as caring and loving parents, they will emulate this behavior. However, if you respond to your spouse by yelling or shouting as a means to resolve differences, they will emulate this behavior as well. Parents have been instructed to be an impartial judge, and this serves to be very difficult. It is inevitable that parents will feel differently about their children who have different needs, personalities, and place in the family. Keep in mind that fairness has nothing to do with the needs of your children. An example of that is how often we hear the argument from one child as to why they cannot stay up to a certain time when their older sibling can. It is not an issue of fairness. It is an issue of what is best for health and wellbeing of the individual child.

Often parents feel that they must treat their children equally. However, in reality that may only come back to haunt us later. If a mother feels that she must hug all of children and not just one, it then becomes dehumanizing. Hugs become meaningless in the family, which it clearly not the intent of what a mother would want. So now that we have decided that sibling rivalry is the norm, we need to determine what we can do to better manage it so that our house of horrors can perhaps return to a happy and safe place. To manage the rivalry, consider not making comparisons to their other siblings. Each child feels that they are unique, and he resents being compared to another sibling. Do not encourage your child to dismiss or suppress their resentment or angry feelings but have them express their feelings and wants calmly. Help them see the other’s point of view. Avoid situations of guilt. Help your child to understand that feelings and actions
are not synonymous. For example, it may be normal to feel as though one child wants to hit the baby. The parents have to stop the child from carrying out this action. The guilt of that follows doing something mean is a lot worse than the guilt of just feeling mean.* Parental intervention must be quick and decisive. Finally, let siblings resolve their own differences when possible. You will have to determine when you may have to intervene. Keeping in mind, there has been a lifetime of grudges held between siblings when they felt their minority rights were not protected. Above all else, keep your sense of humor.

RESOURCES

*http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/parenting/sibling_rivalry.shtml


CONFLICT MANAGEMENT: RAISING A TEENAGER Sunday, January 24th, 2010

In an ever-changing, complex world, our beautiful little children seem to undergo some sort of metamorphosis that transform them into a creature that we no longer recognize as our child. It seems as though the monsters that our child was so scared of at night materialized from under their beds and ate the child we once knew. This monster left us with a being that poses some very difficult and real challenges for we, as parents, and the family. How do we manage this conflict?

Perhaps the best way to manage a conflict to understand what is happening from your teen’s point of view. Teens are trying to deal with the hormonal changes that seem to have them bouncing off the ceiling and walls, and it is happening at light speed. They feel a sudden sense of isolation, feeling that the world does not understand their feelings. As a parent, we are on the top of the list of not understanding them. As a teen, they feel angry, alone, and confused. All of this, and they are facing complicated issues about their identity, peers, sexual behavior, drinking and drugs. In turn, we feel much the same way. We suddenly feel frustrated because what worked as parenting skills just yesterday no longer not works today. Our choices of discipline have no impact on them, and now we feel frightened and helpless about their life’s choices.

As such, a conflict is brewing and is just waiting to happen. Given any of typical areas of concern, and we have will a conflict with our teenager. We may argue over curfews, choice of our child’s friends, spending too much time with their friends when we want them to be with the family more, their school grades, driving privileges, dating and sexuality, clothing, hair, makeup, and a list of self-destructive behaviors. I believe you know the routine. However, what a lot of conflict boils down to is perhaps their lack of self-esteem. It is a difficult task to get them to feel good about themselves and promote a healthy self-image. Let’s face it, they are surrounded by images of perfection, and unfortunately, they do not realize that this kind of beauty does not happen over night or exist in a real world. Often the people we see in Hollywood or on the cover of magazines, spend all day at the gym with their trainers, or have had cosmetic surgery to alter themself, or have had the photos touched. Makeup experts and the right lights can perform miracles for the camera. So for us, the parent, we need to take steps to help them foster a positive, healthy self-image.

So how do we do that? Trust me, they listen, and are listening, whether they show it or not. They listen to our opinions. If we make a remark about their weight or intelligence, just remember they heard us loud and clear. For example, if your teen has a weight issue, there is a strong likelihood that they know and are very much aware of the issue even more so than you. It sticks with them. A better alternative than to comment on their weight would be to suggest or ask them if they would like to go with you on a daily run or to the gym. When they see the weight drop, we will see a change for the good in their self-esteem and in their moods.

By suggesting to our teen that they accompany us to the gym, our child learns from us. We want instill a positive lesson in them. So the lesson here is to watch what we do. If we practice healthy eating habits and gym habits, so will they. However, if we are the the kind of person who obsesses over our weight, then our child will learn the same behavior pattern. For better or for worse, they will emulate us.

Above all else, remember to compliment our teenager on their good attributes. If we learn to emphasize their positive attributes on a regular basis, who knows, they may just start believing in themselves. After all, teenagers are not really that much different than us. As human beings, we tend to flourish when we are praised for our positives.

RESOURCES

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/parenting/teen-body-image.shtml


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